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Why Ask Why?

I vividly remember the evening when one of my daughters told me they played the “Why?” game at CRU. Not being familiar with the game, I asked her to explain. In the Why game, once a question is asked (e.g., "How was your day?") and someone answers, the next question is automatically he next question is “Why” (e.g., “Why was your day great?"). She went on to say that to foster genuine relationships, we have to get past the veneer. It made me stop and think about how often we accept what people say at face value without ever delving deeper.

Based on the Laws of Conservation, Momentum, and Energy, certain things are predictable. As Newton’s Pendulum demonstrates, no matter how many times we pull back one steel ball and let it go, the same thing is going to happen over and over again.

Isn't it sad that our human nature is to ask the same question (e.g., "How are you?") and accept the typically response (e.g., "Fine") even though we know that most people are struggling with something?

Newton Pendulum

So, here's a question... Specific to the second part of The Great Commandment – love [care for] people, what are you doing at your church and WHY? Is caring ministry a set of programs, something that has become as “pastoral” responsibility, or are genuine caring relationships part of the DNA at your church?

What's interesting is that in business, what we do and why we do it is based on plans and processes that have been established in order to achieve the desired results. In healthcare, what we do and why we do it is based on best-practices and protocols in order to achieve desired outcomes. The point is that to “succeed,” we must first know what it is that we wish to accomplish and then determine how we are going to achieve our goal.

Whether playing the Why game or caring for people, we have to be deliberate to get past superficial conversations and contrived responses. The resources and support we provide guides church leaders through a systematic process to draw attention to key aspects of caring God’s way and to address care in a way that reflects the aspirations and unique needs of their local church. We welcome the opportunity to discuss your "Why?" and help you take caring to the next level.